Tuesday, April 20, 2010

It's A Boy!


So......we received "the call" and the verdict is in.
WE HAVE A SON!!!!!

We can finally say "S" will be OUR little monkey!!

Once we make our first trip to meet him and we take our first pictures together we will share his full name :)
We are planning to make our first trip May 4-7!! Its right around the corner and we are SO excited.

The best part is that we can actually be excited now that we know he is ours!

More details to come!!!


Make sure the ringer is on!

The Adoption Staffing went well yesterday. We felt fairly comfortable...as comfortable as you can be having 8 pairs of eyes stare at you through your computer screen. (we used Skype) We were under the impression it would be 1 or 2 people....not 8! Each person that was there was a major part of monkeys life. It was so great to finally see each of these people who have been so invested in him since day 1. It also eased our minds that while we have been on this roller coaster for "S", by each of them being involved in this decision making process, they truly do have his best interest at heart.

I was soooo very proud of JD too. He did an amazing job answering questions and answering them from his heart. We started this process 2 years ago ( and 4 months ago for "S") and we have talked ALOT about our feelings and making decisions on this subject together. I have NEVER in that time heard him speak the way that he did yesterday and it just brought me to tears...happy tears of course! He is such an amazing man and I cannot WAIT for us to get this call today. We have both grown so much from this experience and we look forward to growing even more with monkey in our home. **PRAYERS!

We were supposed to find out the decision yesterday. After our staffing they were going to deliberate and then we were to know last night. Well....after our staffing his caseworker said that they were going to make their decision tonight................and then they would call us in the morning. HUH? WHAT???? I said "Sooo, you don't want us to sleep tonight, is that it?" They laughed....but I was serious. Then I said "I'm glad we did the Skype session today, because tomorrow I will have huge, ugly bags under these eyes!". Again, they laughed and again, I was serious.

Anyone who has gone through this process knows that it takes ALOT of patience....and even ALOT is not enough. There are a ton of things that have irritated me along the way and one day I may write a book. As for now, I just want people to know 2 things about some PAP's (Prospective Adoptive Parents). Of course, I cant speak for all, but this is how WE feel.

1. Do not tell a PAP "oh, you just wait until you have your little one" or anything even slightly related to this sentence. For me, it burns me to the core. Dont tell me to wait.......we have been waiting......very patiently I might add. So, hearing a mother tell me to "just wait until you have a little one and you have to do this* or that*". UGH.

2. Do NOT tell me "What will be, will be" or "It will all work out the way that it is supposed to". Believe me, we understand this and believe more than anyone knows. But NOBODY wants to hear that. I'm positive that this is because some people just don't know what to say to be supportive. But I'm telling you......That isn't it. A simple, "We are praying for you", "We are excited for you", or "We cant wait to hear more" would suffice, then just walk away. Sometimes that's all we need to hear, not entire scriptures on Gods path for us being different from our ideas of our own path.

Ok, I'm done venting and still only killed about 8 minutes. Whew, this is going to be a long day!

Monday, April 19, 2010

4.19.10

So I missed the countdown for "2" and "1"....but that doesn't matter because TODAY IS THE DAY, 4.19.10!!!!!
We can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel and today our lives will change, no matter the decision made by "S"'s caseworkers.
Our staffing is at 4p (our time) and will last about an hour. That means tonight we should know whether or not we will be chosen to be monkeys parents.
Let's pray the next post is a happy one!!!!


Friday, April 16, 2010

3.......days?!?!


Wow......that 3 over there stands for 3 DAYS....NOT weeks! I feel like we were just saying "Ugh I cant believe we have to wait 3 weeks and 6 days!". Some days it seems to go by quickly and other days it feels like an eternity!!
But, its finally ALMOST here!

Thursday, April 15, 2010


That's all :)

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Facts about Five

Many things come in fives: the five senses, the five Chinese elements, and five vowels in the English alphabet.

Punch is a drink that traditionally has five ingredients - spirits, water, sugar, lemon juice and spice. The name punch comes from the Hindi word for five.

We have five digits on each hand and foot. V, the Roman symbol for five, may originate from the image of a hand with the fingers spread.

Five was the lucky number for the superstitious French fashion designer `Coco' Chanel. In 1921 she chose the fifth day of the fifth month to introduce her new brand of perfume which she called Chanel No. 5.

And....last but certainly not least: 5 is the number of days left until our Adoption Staffing for "S"!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Officially 6 days...


Six days until our Adoption Staffing!
I emailed monkeys caseworker this morning to get a little more clarification on whether or not MONDAY will be the day that the we find out for sure if we will be his forever family. We really want my mom to drive down from Charlotte to be here for us as support for which ever way the verdict goes! I didnt want her to have to drive down if we werent even going to find out for another week...or more!

So, she wrote back and said that "Usually a decision is made right after the staffing and that we 'should' know that same night."
I didnt think it was possible, but I am actually over-analyzing MORE than I was before. I think it must be that the more time that passes the more ups and downs in this rollercoaster. One day I feel completely calm and sooo sure about it all, nothing rattles me. Then the next day I can feel like everything is against us. I know that this is normal and we will go through 100 more feelings between now and then but at least we are at SIX days now!
I will be pretty busy the next few days working at the radio station and then fri, sat, and sun at T-Mobile....in theory this week should go by quickly......lets pray!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Close to single digits!


We are 10 days away from our Adoption Staffing for "S".
I think it sounds a lot better being one day away from single digits! haha We are finally down to using 2 hands to count instead of toes!
Nothing new to report, just a countdown :)

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Monkey Doodle Dandy


So, I know that its bad and we never intended on it....but it kinda just happened....."S" has an annoying nickname already! LOL
I don't even know where it came from but since we aren't sharing his name with anyone yet we only call him "S". Well, sometimes it gets old and I don't like calling him by just an initial--and I'm worried I will slip up :)--so I called him Monkey Doodle one day. Then it kinda stuck.
So now we say Monkey or Monkey Doodle.......poor kid isnt even here yet and he has a ridiculous nickname!

We received an email from his caseworker just this morning "reminding us of our staffing next Monday". Really??? Like you have to REMIND us?? We both have taken the entire day off from work --since there is NO way on earth we will be able to get any work done that day regardless of which way the decision goes--and we have big red stars on EVERY calendar and planner within our reach for the 19th.

And....just in case you were wondering.....the 19th is 1 week and 5 days away :)

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